The End of the Narcissistic Friendship

Grace for my Heart

It’s Narcissist Friday!

 

You are probably exhausted.  Perhaps a little confused.  Balancing between conflicting emotions.  On one hand you are glad that person is finally out of your life.  On the other you feel guilty for not doing something you feel you should have done better.  On yet another you feel used and abused.  And you are angry.

Yes, I know that’s more hands than you have, but when the narcissistic friend finally leaves you behind, your world is likely in such a mess that you feel like you could have three or four hands.  Or heads.  In fact, did she leave you behind or did you leave her?  It was her decision, but you were to blame—or something like that.  Narcissistic friendships are confusing.

I have suggested that narcissistic friendships are among the most difficult of narcissistic relationships because they lack the normal bonds narcissists use to keep…

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Prince William turns 30 – June 21 2012 Read his Astrology Chart notes. By Rosa Derriviere

Prince Williams Chart notes :
Prince William, born William Arthur Phillip Louis Mountbatten.
Born 21 June 1982
Paddington London
9.03 Am
Sagittarius Ascendant. With Neptune in Sagittarius gives the prince his charm Shyness, dashing good looks and athletic ability.
Sun In cancer in the 7th house reveals a very sensitive nature and emotional inner being. His principles, motives or purpose is the security of those closest to him. He was especially close and supportive of his late mother Diana, with whom he shares the same Sun Ascendant & Venus position. Sun in the 7th – House of marriage and partnerships would indicate a lasting marriage with a compatible partner.
Moon in Cancer makes him very caring and nurturing as well as moody and insecure. He would have good parenting skills and be a very protective and nurturing father. Moon in cancer can also be a bit if a ‘home body snuggling up on the sofa after a good meal and enjoying being with family and friends is important to William.
Property, Catering, Cooking, and public security are natural fields for this placement. (William is already in the armed forces looking after national security)
The Mid heaven in Scorpio relates to public image, career and goal aspirations and with Jupiter also in Scorpio suggests a spiritual or travel related career or a vocation with a sensitive investigative side. Like his late Mother there’s also an interest in the occult and mystical side of life. Princess Diana regularly consulted Astrologers and Psychics for advice and guidance, when she was alive and was very comfortable within that environment.
Mercury in Gemini in its own sign gives him excellent powers of learning and communication. His interests are varied, and he is very sharp, clever and witty.
Mercury in the the 5th house makes William a natural teacher, he would be particularly good with teaching young people, and Children perhaps even Child psychology would be a natural calling for him
Venus in Taurus in the 5th house in its own sign Gives prince William Excellent taste and judgement and good common sense as well as excellent financial skills and talent. This is a fertile placement in Astrology and suggests the possibility of many children for the future. Venus in Taurus relates to the Female principle – this may suggest having girls rather than boys, although not set in stone. Venus in the 5th produces talented children with a natural flare for the arts, design, and creative expression. They are often blessed with good looks charm and charisma.
Jupiter in Scorpio in the 9th “Jupiter the benefice Healer” in the 9th house of the higher mind fate destiny and long distant travel. Prince William shows potential to be a much love monarch Jupiter in the 9th (the king making Jupiter) would indicate much power to effect social change should he become King.
Saturn in Libra puts the breaks on his Mars in Libra This is called a conjunction in Astrology (Which means in the same sign) Saturn being the disciplinarian and karmic teacher of life lessons adds much caution and realism in his relationships. Hence his delay in marring Kate. His role as a husband and father is taken seriously and this would also indicate a long and happy marriage.
This position is also good for designing Sculpting and personal management
Uranus in Sagittarius in the 11th Is a generation of wanderers who seek spiritual and religious meaning. The 11th house also related to groups and charities and is the placement for humanitarian projects. William is already involved in many charities and with the Sagittarius would indicate charities that span globally.
Pluto in Libra in the 9th house is a generation that goes through very intense – life changing relationship issues… This placement often draws those to archaeology or other subjects revolving around pre history. This is also an excellent placement for those involved in Psychology. Other areas of interest would be anything of an investigative nature such as science research. i.e. Cancer research.

Williams life path number 11
The number 11 in numerology is a master number which indicates a strong demanding and uncompromising destiny. It’s about revelation early calling and heavy responsibility.
Kate Middleton
Born 9th January 1982
Berkshire
Time of birth unknown
Kate and Williams chart together
Kate and William share much common ground as they were born 6 months apart Both Sun and Mercury in their charts are well matched giving spiritual emotional and mental compatibility There’s a Solid Link between Williams Venus and Kate’s Mars ensuring love and affection between them. Their Venus signs differ however – Kate’s Venus in rebellious Aquarius squares Williams Venus in Earthy and sensual Taurus. Squares create intensity in terms of what they like to do socially or how they spend their money .Williams Ascendant in Sagittarius does not blend well with Kate’s Sun in Capricorn. There will be some personal friction there – however she will be supportive of William. Kate’s birth time is unknown so this is an important piece of the puzzle in terms of their overall attraction
The 2 Moons are in the same sign of Cancer. They will feel very comfortable together on an emotional domestic and personal level. Moon in Cancer is at home. Giving strong protective instincts both will be Home bodies to a large extent.
Kate & William as parents.
Kate’s Moon in Cancer will provide the little ones with emotional security, reassurance and strong family ties. The Moon is at Home in cancer and Kate will be a natural when it comes to being a Mother She will dote on her offspring – just needs to avoid manipulation and being over protective when it’s time for them to flee the nest. William’s sun in Cancer He’ll have a very similar parenting style to Kate. Cancer is very protective of their loved ones and William would probably enjoy being very hands on right from the start. Williams 5th house Venus gives him the ability to understand his children on a deep psychological level too. He’ll make a wonderful father, and will have a very special relationship with his daughters if there are any.

Their Mercury’s are trine in Air signs signifying great communication both verbally and mentally Both Aquarius and Gemini like to talk and socialize and share ideas and knowledge.
Their Sun’s are in opposition signifying balance cooperation and compromise. Although there may be struggles with who rules the roost or wears the trousers, but their charts as a whole are well matched and compatible so they should be able to work out any problems. Williams Mars in Libra is compatible with Kate’s Venus in Aquarius. Mars in Libra in both charts means they’ll be quite active socially and artistically. Both have a keen interest in the occult and the paranormal – Both have a keen desire to create beauty &harmony in their world and environment.
Sculpture, art, fashion design, architecture, music, and History are all fields of interest for them. Mars and Saturn combined with Pluto give both Kate and William and their generation much power to effect social change.
Uranus and Neptune in Sagittarius gives both Kate and William and their generation a powerful sense of awareness of what’s going on internationally and what the collective moral and spiritual climate is. They are both natural travellers and with their keen interest and awareness of world affairs means they’ll be well respected by world leaders, for their involvement and commitment in Global projects..
Kate in particular will be seen as a charismatic and strong woman in her own right.
Kate’s Chart has Echo’s of Diana’s… Jupiter and the Moon in Diana’s chart in Aquarius rebels against convention. Kate has Venus and Mercury in Aquarius, and Moon in Cancer (Diana’s Sun was in Cancer) no wonder Wills proposed with his mothers Engagement ring.
Summary
Their Future will be much happier than Diana’s and Charles. Both have a much more compatible chart. A wife’s Moon in the same sign as her husband’s Sun is a very good indicator of marital Happiness.
Saturn square Venus in Diana’s and Charles’s chart. Woman with this configuration often marry at first for security or out of a sense of duty- often to an older financially successful man.
Prince Williams Chart shows the potential to be a much loved Monarch with the King making Jupiter at its highest point of leadership in the 9th house. Neptune on his ascendant and his powerful sun/ Moon combination in the10th house of Public image, also Chiron the wonderful healer in Taurus is at the point of his mothers Venus. He and Kate could heal his nation and the world of the ultimate loss of his mother

Full Moon in Scorpio — 6 May 2012: Sun in Taurus Opp Moon in Scorpio.

The up and coming Full Moon In Scorpio, on the 6 May 2012 offers us the opportunity to heal some deep-seated emotional wounds. We’ve all been Wounded emotionally – Some of us in our Childhood by our Parents and some of us in adulthood by an emotionally abusive partner. Many of us have abused our selves in some way.

Emotional Healing:

The depth and intensity of this Scorpio Moon can trigger some extreme emotions, ranging from the dark to the light. Power struggles,conflicts of opinions that need to be aired may get out of control, passions running high and/ or secrets being unearthed, are all part of this full Moon’s energies. Those that find it hard to express their feelings or opinions maybe forced to ‘say it like it is’. Emotional situation’s, where by there are issues with control  will seem unbearable during this phase. Fears and obsession  are likely to surface  at this time as well.We must not forget though, the healing and transforming  powers of Scorpio.  This Full Moon is a wonderful opportunity to heal, and purge that —  which no longer serves us. Painful as this may sound, Pluto Scorpio’s ruler takes no prisoners… It’s never too late to learn our  life lesson’s, and  until we do, we’ll  be presented with the same issues in a different guise!

Mercury / Saturn — suggest a see-saw between communication and honest expression (Mercury is currently in Aries, Saturn in Libra) There maybe a conflict of opinions that need to be aired; This is not an ‘easy breezy’ aspect… however it does have a somewhat sobering effect with Stern Saturn in Libra..Look at it like this —  The strict teacher tapping us on the knuckles with a ruler if we speak  out of turn(Saturn) Or blurting out our thoughts without care  or consideration for anyone else. (Mercury in Aries). The Venusian aspect does soften things a little though but don’t be fooled by Libra, The iron fist in the Velvet Glove!

Mars/Neptune opposition can work in many ways, but be careful… if something seems too good to be true, then it most probably is!

Scorpio is Fire of Water..Pluto/ Mars. Think deep healing, transformation and purification..Working with divine healing through the Element of Fire would be extremely beneficial during this Phase. Whether you are Fire walking, building a bomb Fire or meditating by the flame of a flickering candle,be aware of the trans-formative energies available to us through the Power and intensity of this Full Moon.

Best Wishes.

RosaX

The New & Full Moon:

The New & Full Moon.
The new and Full Moon is our gateway to connection we have with planetary life and energy. We can become conscious of those energies in a new way. We can get to know ourselves, and the world better allowing revelations to come to us through intuition.
The New Moon is a time to begin new projects – initiate agreements and get to know the environment of your expected project. The effects of the new Moon are shown in outward changes. The effects of the Full Moon are more emotional and directed inwards.
The Full Moon is a time to get connected. It’s a good time to leave anything that doesn’t serve or work including others behind.
Many people react to the energies of the Full Moon with feelings of stress, the Moon is opposite the Sun, therefore we feel at odds with ourselves and with others. What we want and what we can actually get seem so far removed from each other leading to feelings of despair and hopelessness. A regular full Moon Mediation can make a tremendous difference over time. Connection with the energies of the Moon can be a Magical experience. Practising regularly will eventually lead to a new relationship to her illuminating rays.
The Full Moon in Libra on the 6 April 2012:
Moon in Libra ruled by Venus is the energy of cooperation, supportive, alliances and the creation of a win/win situation for the solution to a problem
Libra Key phrase is “I Balance” Libra Key word is “Harmony”
Libra also stands for Justice and Fairness. Working with the energies of this Libra Moon can create balance or in balance – depending on what it is you wish to achieve.
Trying to achieve Balance or harmony in a situation that has past its sell by date may achieve nothing but the opposite. Listening to our ‘inner voice’ and trusting the message that’s being conveyed to us is the key to achieving the answers and even a solution.
Every one of us has Intuition. The answers that we seek mostly lie deep within.
Tarot cards:
Tarot Cards act as a are a gate way to fine tune your intuition. Each Card is unique in its meaning and interpretation. The High Priestess, “The keeper of psychic Knowledge” is an ideal card to work with during the full Moon phases. It is often said that when the High Priestess appears in a reading you are your own best Psychic. Meditate through her energy have the card in front of you before you close your eyes and ask her for guidance, she will never lead down the wrong path. Pay attention to the images you see through your meditation, write them down or draw them if you are artistically inclined you’ll be amazed what you are shown through the power of your own intuition.

Non Je ne regrette Rein..Mars retrograde in Virgo.

Mars the ‘Action’ planet stationed retrograde on the 24th January. Mars retrograde is similar to transiting Mars in the 12th. It’s a time when we might be feeling more hesitant rather than throwing ourselves in to new projects or situations.

Some of us may be more accident prone as though the universe is telling us to slow our natural impulses down, and take a break. Watch out also for passive aggression – or sneaky indirect methods to getting what we want. You may do this yourself, or be a victim of this kind of behavior It’s a time to ‘watch your back’ especially with co/ workers or bosses.

Virgo rules work, health, self care programs, pets, and our daily routines.
During this time we might want to re asses our own motivation as it may seem hard to get motivated or to start new projects. To avoid situations being blown out of proportion check your motives first before you decide to confront any issues.

Retrograde cycles are best used to re focus, re charge, back track, & re think especially regarding issues from the past where by small but key errors have led to major problems. Maybe use this period therapeutically! Any issues from the past might be better resolved in a roundabout way, or at a more auspicious time . ( Mars goes direct on 14th April)

The Hermit card correlates to Virgo. The Hermit deals with solitude and introspection, and is about learning through self- reflection. It’s also about how you serve others through the knowledge that you’ve gained. The Hermit figure shedding the light for others to follow offers a clear perspective from abstract thought. Besides representing the old wise man the Hermit on a more esoteric level is the old wise woman especially in her form of Queen Persephone who guides souls into the underworld in winter and back to rebirth in spring.
Essential oils for Virgo and the Hermit Card are. Sage, Wintergreen & Caraway.

Things maybe to re- consider while Mars is retrograde in Virgo are Surgical procedures, business transactions, sports events, building manufacturing, engineering, mechanical projects.

On more personal level this retrograde phase might be a good time to re-evaluate Mars/ Virgo issues. Here’s my list.

1) I Have the confidence, self esteem & self belief to be the person i want to be.
2) My work is my purpose & gift.
3) My life choices are not up for scrutiny.
7) I have the right to live my life and be happy & healthy as i see fit.
8) How i express myself is who i am.
9) My Honesty.
10)My Strength.
11)My Power.
12)My Wisdom have been earned.
12) I work as many days of the week as i can, want to or need to.
13) How i choose to spend my hard earned cash is my business.
14) How i price my products, and services are a reflection of my worth.
15) Bearing a grudge says more about you then me ( i suggest drop the grudge or drop me!)
16) Criticizing, ‘nit picking’ narrow mindedness, envy, leads to bitter loneliness.
17) I am Not Perfect.
18) You are not perfect
19) cruelty to animals holds a Karmic penalty, as does being
20 Cruel to others.

Regret is a futile emotion. Suppressing who you are is even worse.
We are all ‘Work in progress’ and we are all prone to making mistakes, which is how we learn to be the Wise Old Hermit. When we criticize others & their life choices it’s our lives that really need self examination.

Cosmic Ordering Article:

cosmic ordering Article:
Posted in Uncategorized on January 29, 2011 by Rosa’s Blog spot.
Cosmic order your Guy or Girl for keeps… in 7 easy steps
Your relationship guide for life

Rosa Derrivere is a Psychic clairvoyant, with 20 years, of professional experience in the UK and abroad. Rosa’s been teaching psychic development and cosmic ordering workshops for many years. At the age of 39, Rosa was completely ready to be in a committed relationship. During this fated time, in 1999, Rosa met her husband through a good friend. Although blissfully happy now, Rosa was single for a long period of time before they met however, she always knew that her guy was out there somewhere and that it was only a matter of time before they’d meet… looking back she now knows why it took so long before destiny brought them together?
A common question asked, when most people start cosmic ordering is, when is ‘such and such’ going to happen’. The manifestation of our wishes depends upon many factors…particularly if this involves another person. Rosa knew that her husband to be was out there, many years before they had actually met, and when they eventually did meet, it all fell into place as to why it took so long. The reason being….. He simply wasn’t available!
Rosa and her husband are now celebrating 11 years of marriage this autumn 2010; Rosa says she wouldn’t change a thing. We go through many internal and external changes throughout our lives. There are always reasons, as to why things go wrong or don’t happen when we want them to. TRUST is a key factor, to manifesting our wishes coupled with believing that the universe will provide, when the time is right and when we least expect it…
Staying positive and active are also key factors. There’s no value in cosmic ordering and then sitting around being miserable about it. It’s important not to give up hope at the first hurdle… keep dreaming, even day dreaming…it all helps. Work with your spirit guides, or your ‘higher self’. There are many Ancient Deities you can incorporate, such as the Greek Goddess of love Aphrodite. Cosmic ordering can become an Art, so make it as elaborate or as simple as you wish. The other essential thing to remember is to ask for what you want…. NOT what you don’t want…. the universe only computes what we ask for, and isn’t interested in our dissatisfaction in life, so it’s important not to add any negatives during the process. Your energy and motivation is just as (if not more) important than the order itself.
Try this as an experiment;
Sit down, relax and think about something that you’ve always wanted… for example; A brand new car, or a lovely new home, a loving relationship. Imagine yourself driving that car, or see yourself sitting on the sofa in your new home…. or being in a happy and loving relationship. Allow your imagination, to create that perfect picture, and then tune into how you felt when you created this vision… Did you feel any doubt creeping in? Or were you having problems, creating or visualising…? If the answer is yes, then this could be the key to potential blocks, in that area of your life and perhaps why you’re not manifesting your wishes? Most people ask how often they should do cosmic ordering. There are many schools of thought about this. My suggestion is to make sure that you are initially clear in your mind’s eye, positive- and ready for this manifestation to happen, as it could, transform your life. Secondly if you are going to use tools to enhance the process then be sure to choose tools you feel comfortable with… be as creative as you want to be, and always come from your heart.
Here are some ‘DO’S and ‘DONT’S to help the process along…..
To manifest love;

DO: visualise the kind of partner that you’d like to meet… be specific. For example; if you want to attract a partner that will stay faithful, and is single, and wants a family or would accept one, then specify this.
DO: request detail. If you want a partner to be ambitious, successful, and of a certain age that’s fine too
DO: be realistic…There’s no such thing as perfection but still aim high!

DON’T: be stressed, unhappy, down, negative or cynical about, or during your cosmic ordering as it probably won’t work…
DON’T: be obsessive, or give too much detail to friends and family, about your cosmic ordering, it’s tempting I know however, this may dissipate the energy before it manifests.
Your 7 easy steps to cosmic ordering;

Step 1) Preparation… Create your sacred space, have all your tools to hand
Burn some incense, and light a pink candle (preferably the size, of a dinner candle, a column will take too long.) Anoint your candle with some essential oil, putting a few drops into the palm of your hand. Apply the oil to the candle from pole to pole… Make sure that you choose oil that you like.
Step 2) Place your candle into a holder; place the incense in an incense holder, in the same room so that you can see them both. Relax, Centre yourself and take a seat.
Step 3) on a piece of clean un-used paper, start writing a list of values, needs, looks etc
That you would want in a long term partner… remember, there’s no such thing as perfection, so do make sure to list what’s really important.
Step 4) When you are happy with your list fold the paper 3 times and say aloud, “Divine guardian angels send me my true love, my thanks, love, and gratitude I send to you above”…
When you feel satisfied, and ready, put your list underneath the candle holder and let the candle burn till the end making sure, that it burns somewhere safe….
Step 5) When the flame and the candle have completely burnt down, seal your list with, some of the warm wax (this needn’t be perfect just so long as some of the wax contacts your list)
Step6) Take yourself into the garden or anywhere out side , preferably towards a New or the night of the Full Moon as these are auspicious times for cosmic ordering particularly if the moon is in the partnership sign of Libra ( It’s not essential for beginners but every little bit helps…)
Step 7) Light your list, and then blow the ashes into the Ether. Conclude by sending thanks and gratitude to the universe, asking for your request to happen ASAP. Close yourself down, and let the Universe work it’s Magic!

Your cosmic tool kit;
Candles and corresponding colours, to enhance manifestation…
Pink: Love
Red: Passion
Orange: self esteem

Green: prosperity
Yellow: Clarity
Purple: Clairvoyance

Indigo: Psychic development
Blue; Expression/ protection
Silver: Deepest feminine wisdom
Gold: Souls path

Black: Endings/restriction (use with caution)
White: Purity /Spirituality/protection
Essentials Oils:
Rose; Palma Rosa or Geranium
Rosemary
Lavender
Jasmine
Ylang-Ylang
Neroli
Crystals:
Rose quartz: for Love
Amethyst: Psychic connection
Citrine: Abundance

Create your cosmic vision board:
Using pictures of your ideal scenario make a vision board or collage. Create a special Alter in your home even if you only have a shelf, if space is limited. Decorate your Alter with fresh Flowers, scented candles , crystals, plants and or an Ancient Goddess… let your imagination flow freely. Visit your Alter regularly, to keep the energy and Magic alive.

It may seem strange or odd to cosmic order a relationship, for keeps? However, look at it like this…If you truly feel that you’re ready to attract the partner of your dreams, and you believe that he/she does exist, and that you are deserving of a happy and fulfilling relationship, then that’s exactly what you’ll get !
BEST WISHESxxxxx

Copy right Rosa Derriviere 2010
Email rosaderriviere@tiscali.co.uk
http://www.rosaderriviere.co.uk

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cosmic ordering Article:

Cosmic order your Guy or Girl for keeps… in 7 easy steps
Your relationship guide for life

Rosa Derrivere is a Psychic clairvoyant, with 20 years, of professional experience in the UK and abroad. Rosa’s been teaching psychic development and cosmic ordering workshops for many years. At the age of 39, Rosa was completely ready to be in a committed relationship. During this fated time, in 1999, Rosa met her husband through a good friend. Although blissfully happy now, Rosa was single for a long period of time before they met however, she always knew that her guy was out there somewhere and that it was only a matter of time before they’d meet… looking back she now knows why it took so long before destiny brought them together?
A common question asked, when most people start cosmic ordering is, when is ‘such and such’ going to happen’. The manifestation of our wishes depends upon many factors…particularly if this involves another person. Rosa knew that her husband to be was out there, many years before they had actually met, and when they eventually did meet, it all fell into place as to why it took so long. The reason being….. He simply wasn’t available!
Rosa and her husband are now celebrating 11 years of marriage this autumn 2010; Rosa says she wouldn’t change a thing. We go through many internal and external changes throughout our lives. There are always reasons, as to why things go wrong or don’t happen when we want them to. TRUST is a key factor, to manifesting our wishes coupled with believing that the universe will provide, when the time is right and when we least expect it…
Staying positive and active are also key factors. There’s no value in cosmic ordering and then sitting around being miserable about it. It’s important not to give up hope at the first hurdle… keep dreaming, even day dreaming…it all helps. Work with your spirit guides, or your ‘higher self’. There are many Ancient Deities you can incorporate, such as the Greek Goddess of love Aphrodite. Cosmic ordering can become an Art, so make it as elaborate or as simple as you wish. The other essential thing to remember is to ask for what you want…. NOT what you don’t want…. the universe only computes what we ask for, and isn’t interested in our dissatisfaction in life, so it’s important not to add any negatives during the process. Your energy and motivation is just as (if not more) important than the order itself.
Try this as an experiment;
Sit down, relax and think about something that you’ve always wanted… for example; A brand new car, or a lovely new home, a loving relationship. Imagine yourself driving that car, or see yourself sitting on the sofa in your new home…. or being in a happy and loving relationship. Allow your imagination, to create that perfect picture, and then tune into how you felt when you created this vision… Did you feel any doubt creeping in? Or were you having problems, creating or visualising…? If the answer is yes, then this could be the key to potential blocks, in that area of your life and perhaps why you’re not manifesting your wishes? Most people ask how often they should do cosmic ordering. There are many schools of thought about this. My suggestion is to make sure that you are initially clear in your mind’s eye, positive- and ready for this manifestation to happen, as it could, transform your life. Secondly if you are going to use tools to enhance the process then be sure to choose tools you feel comfortable with… be as creative as you want to be, and always come from your heart.
Here are some ‘DO’S and ‘DONT’S to help the process along…..
To manifest love;

DO: visualise the kind of partner that you’d like to meet… be specific. For example; if you want to attract a partner that will stay faithful, and is single, and wants a family or would accept one, then specify this.
DO: request detail. If you want a partner to be ambitious, successful, and of a certain age that’s fine too
DO: be realistic…There’s no such thing as perfection but still aim high!

DON’T: be stressed, unhappy, down, negative or cynical about, or during your cosmic ordering as it probably won’t work…
DON’T: be obsessive, or give too much detail to friends and family, about your cosmic ordering, it’s tempting I know however, this may dissipate the energy before it manifests.
Your 7 easy steps to cosmic ordering;

Step 1) Preparation… Create your sacred space, have all your tools to hand
Burn some incense, and light a pink candle (preferably the size, of a dinner candle, a column will take too long.) Anoint your candle with some essential oil, putting a few drops into the palm of your hand. Apply the oil to the candle from pole to pole… Make sure that you choose oil that you like.
Step 2) Place your candle into a holder; place the incense in an incense holder, in the same room so that you can see them both. Relax, Centre yourself and take a seat.
Step 3) on a piece of clean un-used paper, start writing a list of values, needs, looks etc
That you would want in a long term partner… remember, there’s no such thing as perfection, so do make sure to list what’s really important.
Step 4) When you are happy with your list fold the paper 3 times and say aloud, “Divine guardian angels send me my true love, my thanks, love, and gratitude I send to you above”…
When you feel satisfied, and ready, put your list underneath the candle holder and let the candle burn till the end making sure, that it burns somewhere safe….
Step 5) When the flame and the candle have completely burnt down, seal your list with, some of the warm wax (this needn’t be perfect just so long as some of the wax contacts your list)
Step6) Take yourself into the garden or anywhere out side , preferably towards a New or the night of the Full Moon as these are auspicious times for cosmic ordering particularly if the moon is in the partnership sign of Libra ( It’s not essential for beginners but every little bit helps…)
Step 7) Light your list, and then blow the ashes into the Ether. Conclude by sending thanks and gratitude to the universe, asking for your request to happen ASAP. Close yourself down, and let the Universe work it’s Magic!

Your cosmic tool kit;
Candles and corresponding colours, to enhance manifestation…
Pink: Love
Red: Passion
Orange: self esteem

Green: prosperity
Yellow: Clarity
Purple: Clairvoyance

Indigo: Psychic development
Blue; Expression/ protection
Silver: Deepest feminine wisdom
Gold: Souls path

Black: Endings/restriction (use with caution)
White: Purity /Spirituality/protection
Essentials Oils:
Rose; Palma Rosa or Geranium
Rosemary
Lavender
Jasmine
Ylang-Ylang
Neroli
Crystals:
Rose quartz: for Love
Amethyst: Psychic connection
Citrine: Abundance

Create your cosmic vision board:
Using pictures of your ideal scenario make a vision board or collage. Create a special Alter in your home even if you only have a shelf, if space is limited. Decorate your Alter with fresh Flowers, scented candles , crystals, plants and or an Ancient Goddess… let your imagination flow freely. Visit your Alter regularly, to keep the energy and Magic alive.

It may seem strange or odd to cosmic ordering a relationship, for keeps? However, look at it like this…If you truly feel that you’re ready to attract the partner of your dreams, and you believe that he/she does exist, and that you are deserving of a happy and fulfilling relationship, then that’s exactly what you’ll get !
BEST WISHESxxxxx

Copy right Rosa Derriviere 2010
Email rosaderriviere@tiscali.co.uk
http://www.rosaderriviere.co.uk

Halloween; and; the Witches of Benevento

Halloween ∧ the Witches of Benevento
La Danza delle Streghe
(the Dance of the Witches)
by Pericle Fazzini*1
As globalization has sunk its vast talons into our once diverse cultures, I have grown accustomed to seeing, for example, St. Valentine’s Day celebrated in Naples. So when I saw the first Halloween decorations go up around town some years ago, I shrugged it off as just another glum harbinger of the day when we shall all— Neapolitans and Australian Bakanambians alike—sit around the campfire on St. Patrick’s Day, nibble on our traditional Finnish karjalanpiirakka and sing Dixie.
And yet, there really is a local Halloween, of sorts, near Naples. It’s when witches and spooks come out at certain times and gather by the sacred Walnut Tree and do things that I am not at liberty to reveal (except that they dance and no doubt take shots of their famous and potent inebriating beverage, Strega [witch]). That place is Benevento in the hills about 30 miles (50 km) northeast of Naples. It is the capital city of the province of the same name in the Campania region of Italy and supposedly founded by Diomedes after the Trojan War.
In Italian lore and literature dealing with witchcraft, Benevento and the sacred Walnut Tree are in the same class as the Brocken in the Harz mountains in Germany, where northern witches gather on the night of April 30, Walpurgisnacht. The Benevento gathering is often called in Italian folklore the tregenda, a word that may derive from an old plural form of trecento (three hundred) used to mean any large number. Today, it is used only to mean the gathering of witches at propitious times of the year, typically the winter and summer solstice and vernal equinox.
In 1600, the celebrated Jesuit and demonologist, Martin Antonius Delrio mentioned the noce di Benevento (Walnut Tree of Benevento) in his Disquisitiones Magicae libri sex (Six Books on Investigations into Magic), and the sacred tree and gathering of witches of Benevento crop up often in literature and anthropological studies. A poem published in the 19th century in Naples, Storia della Famosa Noce di Benevento (History of the famous Walnut Tree of Benevento) goes into some detail on the lore: there is the great serpent twisted around the tree, and then there is the poisonous nature of the tree, itself, such as to paralyze you if you fall asleep in the shade of the branches. More recently, Italian anthropologist and ethnologist, Giuseppe Cocchiara (1904-65), devoted an entire chapter to the witches of Benevento in his 1956 book, Il paese di Cuccagna e altri studi di folklore (The Land of Cockayne and Other Studies in Folklore. Reprint, 1980, Bollati Boringhieri. Torino. )*2
A large body of scholarship has developed over the years dealing with the obvious syncretism —that is, the mixing of snake worship (possibly from the cult of Isis, particularly strong in Benevento under the Romans) and various forms of tree worship from northern Europe (which has given us the Christmas tree, for example). Northern influence penetrated into Italy with the Lombard invasions after the fall of the Western Roman Empire; thus, it is plausible that northern lore mixed with local, earlier lore come together to give us the “witches” of Benevento. Locally, the witches are often referred to as janara, possibly from dianara, a priestess of Diana.
Of the many legends that weave the Lombards into the origins of the lore is one that tells of a local Christian priest, Barbato, in the mid-600s, when Benevento was an autonomous Lombard duchy besieged at the time by the forces of Byzantine emperor, Constans II, still trying to maintain a hold on the exarchate, the Eastern Imperial enclave in Italy. The Lombard ruler of Benevento, Romualdo, made a vow to Barbato to give up his northern gods and embrace Christianity if Benevento were spared from the Greek forces. The Greeks, for whatever reason, lifted the siege and went elsewhere; Romualdo promoted Barbato to bishop of Benevento but reneged on his own promise to switch faiths and continued to worship his little golden statue of a viper (the snake from the tree, one supposes). Then, Romualdo’s good and faithful wife, Theodorada—and what a witch she was!—ratted him out to Barbato and gave the bishop the statue. Barbato melted it down and turned it into a chalice for the Eucharist; he then went and chopped down the walnut tree and built the church of Santa Maria del voto on the site.

*1.Pericle Fazzini (1913-87), an Italian sculptor best-known for his 1977 work, The Resurrection, on the premises of the Vatican. The Dance of the Witches is from 1949 and is in the Fazzini family collection in Rome. ^to text
*2. Cockayne means, roughly, “land of plenty”; the term goes back to ancient times, existing with slight variations in many languages. (See this link.) The Cocchiara book is not to be confused with the 1891 book, il Paese di Cuccagna by Neapolitan writer, Matilde Serao. ^to text

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Happy Yule One and all..

As another year comes to a close, with a recent T square in the heavens creating havoc, this aspects was a big test. Like striking a match, it was going to either creat a gentle flame, or blow-up like a fire work! 2010 has most definitely been one of the most un predictable years to date. The year of the chinese Tiger, and only a few months left of my Chiron return, many Karmic wounds are healing. As i look back on my year i can honestly say that i’ve been through a re-birth! ..! The plus side is that i feel more in touch with my self, than ever before..
So for anyone that has taken the time to read my rather short and (last blog of 2010..). I’d like to thank everyone that’s loved me, everyone that’s helped me everyone that’s touched me, and everyone that’s hurt me… because there’s always a lesson to learn through pain…So whilst i stand back for a short while, and spend time only with my loved one’s, i wish you all a Happy christmas and a bright and happy new year … Look out for my Celebrity Astro predictions for 2011 in Reveal Magazine On the shelves Xmas Eve. I’ll fill you in later on the rest!
Love Rosa xx

Psychic Development weekend @ Thoresby Hall hotel and Spa Friday 12th November

The weekend of the 12th November Rosa Derriviere and Jayne Wallace will be teaching at Thoresby Hall Hotel and spa for a weekend of Psychic Development, in the sumptuous surrounds of this 18-19th century building : The Line up looks like this ..
Saturday:1030: -12.30 LINKING WITH YOUR SPIRIT GUIDES

Afternoon Sessions 2:30 till 4:30 DISCOVERING CRYSTALS

Sunday: 11:am -1:PM How to read the Psycards

Afternoon Session: 2:PM TILL 4:30 PM
COSMIC ORDERING MADE EASY

Private readings with Rosa and Jayne are also available on this weekend!
Do check out what’s on for December, and for next years line up… All information can be seen at http://www.psychicsisters.co.uk or rosaderriviere.co.uk

Love Rosa xx